202 ⎸ Healing Money Trauma with Meenadchi

Hey ambitious bookkeepers!

Have you ever wondered why certain money situations make your stomach drop, even when logically you know you're fine? Or why you have such a hard time pricing your services, even though you know you're worth it?

What if I told you that some of your money struggles might not even be yours to begin with?

I recently had an incredible conversation with Meenadchi, an ancestral healing practitioner, that completely shifted how I think about money trauma. And honestly? It's something every business owner needs to hear.

Listen here or on your favorite podcast player, or watch the video version on YouTube >>

Now let's dive into some highlights!

The Science That Will Blow Your Mind

Here's a fact that stopped me in my tracks: you existed in your grandmother's belly.

Let me explain. When your grandmother was about five months pregnant with your mother, your mother's reproductive system came online. That means the egg that would eventually become YOU was already there, in your grandmother's womb, collecting information.

This is called epigenetics, and it means that any stress, trauma, or survival strategies your grandmother was navigating literally shaped how your genes were being encoded.

So when you have that pit-in-your-stomach feeling about money that doesn't match your actual life experiences? It might be because your cells remember something your great-grandmother went through.

How This Shows Up in Your Business (And With Your Clients)

As bookkeepers and accountants, we see this play out constantly, even if we don't recognize it.

That client who won't send you their documents month after month? They're probably not being difficult for the sake of it. There might be genuine trauma preventing them from looking at their numbers.

I shared the story of a client who paid for our services faithfully but didn't open her monthly reports for almost a year. She wasn't a "bad client" - she was avoiding something that felt overwhelming. When I approached her with compassion instead of frustration, we worked through it together.

And let's be real - this affects us as business owners too. How many times have you:

• Underpriced your services because charging more felt "too visible"?
• Defaulted to "I'll just do it myself" when someone disappointed you?
• Felt guilty about making "too much" money?

These patterns often run deeper than just our individual experiences.

The Self-Reliance Trap

One pattern Meenadchi mentioned really hit home for me: hyper self-reliance.

If your first instinct when someone doesn't keep their word is to put up walls and think "I can never rely on this person again," you're probably using a survival strategy that runs in your family.

Self-reliance works in crisis mode. It gets you through the immediate thing you need to get through. But it doesn't help you build the life you actually want - one with rest, ease, and meaningful relationships.

The goal isn't to never be self-reliant. It's to recognize when it's a trauma response versus a conscious choice.

Where to Start Healing

Meenadchi shared some practical exercises you can try right now:

1. Map Your Family Tree Draw out what you know of your family tree, then identify patterns that show up repeatedly in your life. Give each pattern a shape (triangle, heart, star) and mark where you see those same patterns in previous generations.

Often, just seeing that five people before you dealt with the same struggle takes the pressure off. It's not your fault - these were the cards you were given.

2. Write a Letter to Money Seriously. Write money a letter and see what comes up. A few days later, have money write you back. You might be surprised by what your subconscious reveals.

3. Expand Your Definition of Lineage If you don't have access to family history, think about who you do identify as your lineage - nature, artists, musicians, poets who've influenced you. Put yourself at the center and map out what these "ancestors" wish for you.

The Client Compassion Factor

Understanding trauma has made me a better business owner, especially in how I work with clients.

When someone isn't responding to emails or seems to be sabotaging their own success, I don't immediately assume they're a problem client. I get curious about what might be underneath that behavior.

This doesn't mean accepting poor boundaries or letting clients walk all over you. It means approaching difficulties with curiosity instead of judgment first.

Money as Flow, Not Hoarding

One of Meenadchi's foundational principles really resonated with me: money is like blood in the body. If it's hoarded, illness emerges. If it's hemorrhaging everywhere, illness emerges. It needs to flow where it needs to go.

As business owners, this means investing in good services so we can stay in our zone of genius. It means paying our bookkeepers, our coaches, our support team - because that keeps money flowing and allows everyone to do their best work.

Why This Matters for Your Business

Look, I'm not saying every business problem is because of ancestral trauma. But I am saying that understanding the deeper patterns we carry can make us better business owners AND better service providers.

When we approach our money stuff with curiosity instead of shame, we make better decisions. When we approach our clients' money avoidance with compassion instead of frustration, we build stronger relationships.

And honestly? Sometimes the most practical thing you can do for your business is heal the stuff that's been holding you back for generations.

The Bottom Line

Your money issues might not actually be yours. But healing them? That's absolutely your responsibility and your opportunity.

If this conversation sparked something for you, I encourage you to check out Meenadchi's work at meenadchi.com. She offers programs specifically for small business owners dealing with money trauma, and honestly, it might be the missing piece you didn't know you needed.

Because here's what I know for sure: you deserve to be paid well for the incredible work you do. You deserve clients who celebrate your services. And you deserve to move through your business without carrying baggage that isn't even yours to carry.

What patterns do you notice in your relationship with money? I'd love to hear about it - drop me a comment or send me a message.

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